“Even when I was young, playing with my cousins and siblings, I played school and I was the teacher,” she said. “I know it may sound corny, but I think I had a calling.”
Learn a lesson or two from this slice of life with Amici:
One of the things missing in our world is spiritual growth. We’re so focused on physical health, but I don’t think we focus enough on the spiritual growth. Our kids are the future, our hope. It’s really important for them to have a solid moral foundation, and religious schools give that. There’s so much choice here in Delavan. You have a city of 8,000 and you have Delavan Christian School, Our Redeemer, St. Andrew.
As an adult, I realized there’s so much more to my spiritual life. I went through a period of five years where I lost a lot of people in my life: my mom, my grandma, my husband’s mom, his brother, my sister-in-law, and then I lost my husband. Without my faith and my spiritual growth, I don’t know if I could have gotten through all of that.
In the classroom
I loved the whole idea of school, even school shopping -- getting new pencils and notebooks. I love the whole process of getting my room ready, anticipating the students. I like the change. I like the interaction with the kids, getting to know them. I try to guide them. If anything, I probably learn more from my kids than I probably teach them.
I’ve had students in my life inspire me. My very first year of teaching I was 21, and I had a student in sixth grade at Saints Andrew and Thomas in Potosi. From third grade on, she had cancer. To this day, I still think of her and how she changed my life. She lost one of her legs and she came to me one day and told me she needed to go to the bathroom and needed me to go with her. She wanted me to take her prosthetic leg off because it was hurting her. I asked if she would show me how, and she told me sure, it was easy to do. That bonded us.
She just amazed me. She would jump rope on one leg. She would play basketball. To be so young and have something like that happen to you, and yet you still find joy in life -- that’s inspiring.
All grown up
We have a preschool upstairs, so I’ve watched some of the kids grow up. It’s amazing. It’s not just that they’ve gotten taller or mastered algebra or they can show me more on a computer than I can teach them. For me, teaching students grades five through eight -- I get to have them every year for social studies -- the growth I see is phenomenal. That connection you make with them is great, and then sometimes you’ll stay connected. Right now I’m teaching the son of a student -- the mom -- that I taught. She jokes with me that we need to have our 30- year reunion. Now I have children (of my students). Someone was teasing me that pretty soon I’ll be teaching the grandchildren. It’s a beautiful thing to see that they want their children to have a Catholic education, that faith foundation.
Our graduates stop in and say hi. They’ll come in the classroom and give my eighth-graders advice, like -- this is an old joke -- make sure if someone at the high school tries to sell you an elevator pass you know that there’s no elevator. Or they’ll say, “Make sure you know how to take notes. Note-taking is really important.”
I remember when I first started, at Sacred Heart School in Sun Prairie, I had 35 sixth-graders in my room. And the other sixth grade had 35. Our desks were in nice little rows. When the kids were in the hallway, they walked in rows and you could hear a pin drop. My middle schoolers aren’t like that. They’re like a pack. When they walk down the hall, they spread across the hall.
Because society and family structures have changed, the needs of students have changed -- their learning needs and even their emotional needs. If students’ emotional needs are not being met, they’re not going to be able to come to school and learn. That’s why it’s really important to let the child know that you respect and care about him, especially middle schoolers.
When I was growing up, some teachers would take the time to work with you and some wouldn’t. They were like, “Well, why can’t you get math?” I always wanted the kids to have self-esteem, no matter what their struggles. I want them to know everybody has struggles, strengths and weaknesses. But I believe in a strong work ethic -- that’s probably the Midwesterner farm girl in me. With determination, you can achieve whatever you want.
Parents and teachers
I’ve had struggles with parents who might think I’m too tough or demanding, but all the years I’ve been here, I’ve felt valued, respected by the community, the parents. There’s this connection here of working with the teacher. Parents want the best for their child and that’s what I want. Sometimes you need to sit down and talk. It’s OK to disagree or have a different viewpoint. But always, the child needs to come first.
One thing I’ve learned is we don’t ever know what’s exactly going on at home in that child’s life or that parent’s life, what they’re struggling with. I realized that because my husband had cancer for 15 years and I knew my girls, from an early age -- third and fifth grade – were living with that. I don’t know what those parents are dealing with. I also don’t know how they were parented. Because we end up parenting kind of like how our parents parented us.
We never know how we can touch each other’s lives, make a difference. In teaching, I feel like I can touch a lot of lives and then hopefully, they’ll go out in the world and they’ll be the ones to make our world better. That’s what really enlightens and inspires me -- the hope and dreams of what they can do.
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